13 Jan 2014
I don't know about you, but I find no matter how often I go out on that first date, the surge of nervous energy sometimes seems to transform the confident woman I believe myself to be, into somewhat of a schoolgirl going to prom.
Once the excitement settles down, I allow sanity to take over. I have developed some simple techniques that have served me well over the last 11 months and thought I would share them with you.
My rules of thumb are simple:
Be genuine, authentic- letting him know exactly who you are from the start. No Pinocchio routines.
Don't play games. If you are interested in going out with someone and getting to know them, make him aware of your intentions.
When he calls, answer- don't play hard to get. Do you want to meet or not!
Take time to make a good first impression, if you hope to have a second encounter. Not suggesting 3 hours at the spa but put your best you out there. Let's ask ourselves these question ladies; do you want to sit across from a man with dirty nails, sloppy attire and food in his teeth?
Getting ready for a date doesn't have to be scary!
Dress so that you don’t fidget all night- there is nothing worse than hair twirling. That is a bad habit to start with, but even more gauche at a dinner table.
Don't talk negative about people or your ex- bad form at any time. Respect is universal and your date will wonder how you will talk about him with others.
Try to order simple foods. You want to be able to stay engaged with your dinner partner, rather than struggle with your meal. Plus certain foods can be unattractive to watch someone eat.
Keep it casual and ask questions that keep the focus on the gentleman. Men love to talk and know you are interested in them. Plus- it leaves you mysterious and them wanting to discover more. Second date!!
Have fun- you can be flirty but not sexual. Show your femininity and playfulness with a touch of class.
Without sounding egotistical, I may not have found Mr. Right as of yet, but I do usually get a second date- so I must be doing something right. LOL
We all have to stick together and help each other on this journey to find love. Do you have any tips to share with the rest of us?
Let me know in share your story.